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Tue, 24 May 2011 14:58:27 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_pursuit-and-distance_reassure-or-fear.html Where is the balance between an MLCer needing reassurance of your presence and commitment and their fear that they will lose you? Tue, 24 May 2011 14:55:28 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_pursuit-and-distance_questions.html Why do you pursue and why does he distance? Why is it so hard for you to change? Tue, 24 May 2011 14:54:59 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_pursuit-and-distance_mlcer-run-when-alienator-gone.html Tue, 24 May 2011 14:54:21 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_pursuit-and-distance_hoovering.html Hoovering is a metaphor describing how an abuser sucks a victim back into the relationship. Tue, 24 May 2011 14:53:46 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_pursuit-and-distance.html Pursuit and distance are about separation anxiety and integration anxiety respectively. Tue, 24 May 2011 14:53:05 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_contact-levels_no-contact.html No Contact is a literal term. It means none, zero, zilch. Where Dim and Dark are emotional states, No Contact is a boundary. Tue, 24 May 2011 14:52:32 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_contact-levels_expectations-control-manipulation.html No Contact is not a manipulative tactic with expectations; it is for your personal mental and emotional health? Tue, 24 May 2011 14:52:00 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_contact-levels_dim-and-dark.html Dim is about protecting yourself while being distantly available. Dark is maintaining an emotional distance when in contact. Tue, 24 May 2011 14:51:27 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_contact-levels.html In early MLC, soon after Bomb Drop, you are at your most vulnerable and may need to limit contact in order to gather your Self together to gain strength and detach. Tue, 24 May 2011 14:50:53 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_cake-eating_friendship-balance.html When should you start the friendship process? Tue, 24 May 2011 14:50:19 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_cake-eating.html Cake-Eating is maintaining one's own freedom in two separate worlds while holding the OW and LBS emotionally captive for his own benefits. Tue, 24 May 2011 14:47:52 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_validation_whats-bad.html Is your MLCer a bad person, or is his behaviour bad? Tue, 24 May 2011 14:45:44 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_validation_respect-boundaries.html Boundaries are not about refusing help when it is needed, but are about avoiding and preventing abusive situations. They establish proper and healthy relationships. Tue, 24 May 2011 14:45:10 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_validation_passive-resistance-and-tough-love.html An MLCer needs both tender compassion and Tough Love that includes boundaries. Tue, 24 May 2011 14:44:34 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_validation.html Validate feelings, not behaviours. Validating means you recognize he feels a certain way, not that you believe the feelings come from an accurate perception of life. Tue, 24 May 2011 14:44:06 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_tightrope_when-to-challenge.html At what point of the crisis is it beneficial to question the validity of his feelings or call him on his behaviour? Tue, 24 May 2011 14:43:36 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_tightrope_no-big-deal.html Standing involves consistently throwing his actions back in his face as he tries to deny, dismiss and diminish them. Tue, 24 May 2011 14:43:04 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_tightrope_doormat.html You are on the doormat when you allow your MLCer to create the boundaries which you follow rather than creating boundaries yourself. Tue, 24 May 2011 14:42:21 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_tightrope_bitch.html It is at times necessary or helpful to let the MLCer know that the present behaviours or state of conditions are not acceptable. 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