http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/Midlife-Crisis-blog.html The Article Blog keeps you up to date with additions and changes to The Hero's Spouse . Subscribe here. en-us Midlife Crisis Sun, 28 Feb 2010 13:46:45 GMT Sun, 28 Feb 2010 13:46:45 GMT midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/What-is-bomb-drop.html Bomb Drop is the moment you learn there is a serious problem in your marriage threatening its destruction. Sun, 28 Feb 2010 13:46:44 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/choose_joy_gratitude-count-your-blessings.html How do you find gratitude when your life is crumbling? Sun, 28 Feb 2010 13:45:59 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/planting-seeds_communicating-your-stand-and-beliefs.html How can you communicate your Stand without seeming as though you are in denial? Sun, 28 Feb 2010 13:45:21 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/why-your-questions-are-important.html There is a risk of information overload and analysis paralysis but some people will remain stuck in panic without some introductory information. Thu, 18 Feb 2010 14:11:34 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/choose_joy-gratitude.html Gratitude is more than Thank You. Thu, 18 Feb 2010 14:08:13 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/planting-seeds_change-your-language.html A brief introduction to Ericksonian language. Thu, 18 Feb 2010 14:07:49 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/lifecycleanddevelopment-erikerikson-stage3-MLC-regression.html A brief review of midlife regression to Stage 3 in Erik Erikson's Developmental Stages. Sun, 31 Jan 2010 14:16:33 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/infidelity.html Infidelity is a violation from the most trusted person in your life. Sun, 31 Jan 2010 13:56:29 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/choose_joy-it-doesnt-matter-what-you-do.html ACtually it does matter; your actions affect your attitude and your attitude can be contagious, thereby affecting and infecting others. Sun, 31 Jan 2010 13:54:42 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/planting-seeds_danger-of-questions.html MLCers may perceive them leading questions, where the desired answer is implied, as begging and pleading. Sun, 31 Jan 2010 13:54:08 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/reasons-to-stand.html Standing has advantages even if a marriage is not restored. The Standing Actions are relationship teachers. You can become stronger through the process of learning relationship problem-solving skills. Sat, 16 Jan 2010 14:08:16 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/choose_joy-defense_and_caution_of_praising_god.html There are cautions to how we perceive what we are praising. In the beginning you are so desperate for clues of Hope that anything is worthy. Praise God for the journey--bumps and all. Sat, 16 Jan 2010 14:07:30 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/coming-and-going_being-number-one.html Your spouse may not return out of love for you. He may pine for the alienator and consider you his second choice. Love is work and as you rebuild your relationship, you will become his first choice. Sat, 16 Jan 2010 14:06:56 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/lifecycleanddevelopment-erikerikson-stage3.html The third stage of development approximately spanning the preschool years, builds the foundation and initiative vs. guilt. Sun, 03 Jan 2010 13:02:45 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/why-are-you-standing.html In the beginning, it's okay to Stand because you don't know what else to do or because you can't afford divorce. It's okay to Stand and it's okay to change your mind someday. Sat, 02 Jan 2010 20:12:36 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/who-are-you_the-insistence-on-maps.html People cling desperately to the instructions, reviewing the map lines and the terrain; they become insistent on continuing on the same path or direction, though the path is washed out. Sat, 02 Jan 2010 20:11:48 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/betrayed_dealing-with_infidelity-an-affair-down-alienator-is-an-advantage.html The alienator's desperation is indicative of the MLCer's level of weakness and self-worth. Sat, 02 Jan 2010 20:11:22 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing.html A Stander is a person who seeks to remain married while his or her spouse is seeking to escape the marriage; legal actions may or may not have been initiated or finalized. Wed, 23 Dec 2009 21:06:01 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/who-are-you_fearing-and-judging-the-search.html Are you afraid of finding your Self? Wed, 23 Dec 2009 21:04:59 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/betrayed_dealing-with_infidelity-what-makes-the-alienator-an-affair-down.html The downfall of the alienator that makes her an affair down is not in who she is but in who or what she becomes through the act of being in an adulterous relationship. Wed, 23 Dec 2009 20:56:39 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/lifecycleanddevelopment-erikerikson-stage2-MLC-regression.html A brief review of midlife regression to Stage 2 in Erik Erikson's Developmental Stages. Wed, 23 Dec 2009 20:28:06 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/lifecycleanddevelopment-erikerikson-stage2.html The second stage of development from infancy to approximately 2 to 3 years of age builds the foundation and autonomy versus shame and doubt. Fri, 11 Dec 2009 18:32:21 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/infidelity_statistics.html How common is infidelity--really? Sat, 05 Dec 2009 17:33:16 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/why_should_i_work_on_myself.html Why Self-Focus is important Sat, 05 Dec 2009 17:32:43 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/contacting_the_alienator.html Why should you not contact the alienator? Sat, 05 Dec 2009 17:32:33 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/newsletter.html Find archives of your favourite issues and see what is coming up in future issues. Sat, 05 Dec 2009 17:29:20 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/lifecycleanddevelopment-erikerikson-stage1-MLC-regression.html A brief review of midlife regression to Stage 1 in Erik Erikson's Developmental Stages. Sat, 28 Nov 2009 17:40:38 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/lifecycleanddevelopment-erikerikson.html The purpose of this review is to understand the stages and series of developmental accomplishments a person needs to have achieved for a smooth midlife transition. Sun, 25 Oct 2009 02:13:31 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/betrayed_dealing-with_infidelity-affair-down.html Strong people who value themselves do not allow themselves to become involved with people who are married. Wed, 14 Oct 2009 16:45:50 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/betrayed_dealing-with_infidelity-excuses-with-validity.html No marriage is perfect and within your spouse's excuses will be some valid criticisms rather than words tossed out to get you off his back. It is wise to listen to what he's trying to say. Wed, 14 Oct 2009 16:06:45 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/balancing_love-doormat.html Giving in to an MLCer's demands is doormat behaviour; it is a place of desperation, where a person will do whatever it takes, meet all demands. Wed, 14 Oct 2009 15:17:01 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/balancing_love-infidelity-nobigdeal.html My MLCer is oblivious to my anger about the infidelity; like its no big deal. Wed, 14 Oct 2009 15:16:56 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/balancing-love-bitch.html To challenge or refuse to give your MLCer what he wants is to risk inciting his anger. You may plan a discussion ahead, or your frustration may suddenly thrust you into Bitch-Mode. Wed, 14 Oct 2009 15:16:49 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/balancing_love-whentochallenge.html Challenging is not about confrontation, rather it can be part of a response given to actions and statements. Wed, 14 Oct 2009 15:16:41 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/choose_joy.html As we use it today, happiness is a general term used to describe a range of feelings and emotions from carnal to divine pleasures; it can be either superficial and thus fleeting or deep and lasting. Tue, 13 Oct 2009 20:16:16 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/affairandmidlifecrisispersonalitydynamics_personalitydisorder_jealousy.html The focus of attention in jealousy is a treasured item; the focus in envy is the rival who possesses the item. Tue, 13 Oct 2009 15:07:39 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/affairandmidlifecrisispersonalitydynamics_personalitydisorder_antisocial.html Antisocial Personality Disorder revolves on an axis of power which is a defensive response to the belief that everyone is against him. Tue, 13 Oct 2009 14:17:16 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/affairandmidlifecrisispersonalitydynamics_personalitydisorder_narcissistic.html The axis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder is the motivation to find and prove their existence. Tue, 13 Oct 2009 14:16:37 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/affairandmidlifecrisispersonalitydynamics_personalitydisorder_histrionic.html The axis of Histrionic Personality is the motivation to conceal a lack of emotional perception and to avoid anxiety through the illusion of excessive emotionality. Tue, 13 Oct 2009 14:16:03 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/affairandmidlifecrisispersonalitydynamics_personalitydisorder_borderline.html The characteristics of Borderline Personality are indicative of the Borderlines terror of abandonment. Tue, 13 Oct 2009 14:15:17 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/understanding_infidelity-break-up.html An affair is a relationship of intense emotional highs. A break-up involving either attraction or attachment wreaks havoc in the hormonal systems, triggering obsessive behaviour and jealous outbursts Mon, 12 Oct 2009 19:10:01 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/understanding_infidelity-love.html There is a chemical and biological component with love, but science is a system of rules and boundaries. Love extends beyond science. Mon, 12 Oct 2009 18:59:34 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/understanding_infidelity-otherwoman.html What need is the other woman meeting that you are not? A counselor will often insist there must be something. The question can make you feel as though you are doing something wrong. Mon, 12 Oct 2009 18:39:10 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/shadow-projection.html Projection delegates power to an external source, making that source responsible for success and failure as well as joy and misery. Mon, 12 Oct 2009 16:30:22 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/shadow-knight.html The role of knight is for men in early adulthood who still swagger with youthful indulgence. Mon, 12 Oct 2009 16:19:42 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/shadow-initiatory-experience.html The first encounter with the anima is the initiatory experience of adolescence. Mon, 12 Oct 2009 16:03:09 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/shadow-anima-animus.html The contrasexual complexes are each a personal and archetypal image of the opposite gender in the psyche. Mon, 12 Oct 2009 15:45:00 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/midlife-crisis-stages.html An Introduction to the stages of Midlife Crisis Sun, 11 Oct 2009 23:09:34 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/About.html Learn about my story and what I'm doing now to help Standers. Mon, 31 Aug 2009 13:23:19 GMT http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/affairandmidlifecrisispersonalitydynamics_personalitydisorder_consequences.html People with a personality disorders have an inability to understand the consequences of their actions. Wed, 13 May 2009 14:36:43 GMT