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    Pre-Section: Standing
    This is a mini section introducing the concept of Standing
  1. MLC & Infidelity
    2. Informational articles about Midlife Crisis & Infidelity
  2. Self-Focus
    3. Inspirational and instructional articles encouraging Self-Focus
  3. Standing Actions
    4. Instructional articles about interacting with your MLCer

The address structure of each article--after the .com--begins first with the section title, then there is the series title, followed by the article title. Each of those pieces is separated by an underscore _ and any words within those pieces are separated by a dash -. A few articles are further divided into sections, each section again being separated by an underscore _. All article addresses end with .html.

Standing

http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/stand.html
5 Articles
How Do You Stand? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/stand_how-do-you-stand.html
Why Are You Standing? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/stand_why-are-you-standing.html
Why Stand? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/stand_reasons-to-stand.html
Clarifying the Concept I http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/stand_standing_clarifying-the-concept1.html
Clarifying the Concept II http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/stand_standing_clarifying-the-concept2.html

Section I: MLC & Infidelity

http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc.html
37 Articles

Midlife Crisis Overview

Overview http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview.html
Midlife Crisis Stages http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_stages.html
Monster http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_monster.html
Contact Types http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_contact-types.html
Contact Types: Clinging Boomerang http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_contact-types_clinging-boomerang.html
Depression Overview http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_depression.html
Blind to Destruction http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_depression_blind-to-destruction.html
A Midlife Metaphor http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_midlife-metaphor.html
Accommodation http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_accomodation.html
MLC Phase1: Separation http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_separation.html
Replay http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_separation_replay.html
Stage Obsession http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_separation_replay_stage-obsession.html
MLC Phase 2: Liminality http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_liminality.html
Transition is Liminal http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_liminality_transition-is-liminal.html
When is Liminality? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_liminality_when-is-liminality.html
MLC Phase 3: Rebirth & Integration: A Brief Introduction http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_overview_rebirth-and-reintegration.html

Turmoil & Chaos

The Shadow http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_shadow.html
Contrasexual Complex http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_shadow_contrasexual-complex.html
Initiatory Experience http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_shadow_initiatory-experience.html
Tarnished Knight http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_shadow_tarnished-knight.html
Projection http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_shadow_projection.html

Understanding Infidelity

Introduction http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_understanding-infidelity.html
Why Her? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_understanding-infidelity_other-woman.html
In-fatuation Vs. In-Love http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_understanding-infidelity_in-fatuation-versus-love.html
Science Vs. Love http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_understanding-infidelity_science-versus-love.html
Breaking Up is Hard http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_understanding-infidelity_break-up.html
Love & Hate http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_understanding-infidelity_love-and-hate.html
Love & Indifference http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_understanding-infidelity_love-and-indifference.html

Affair & MLC Personality Dynamics

Personality Disorders
Introduction http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_personality-disorder.html
Borderline http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_personality-disorder_borderline.html
Narcissistic http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_personality-disorder_narcissistic.html
Histrionic http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_personality-disorder_histrionic.html
Antisocial http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_personality-disorder_antisocial.html
Personality Disorders in Relationship http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_personality-disorder_in-relationship.html
Jealousy & Envy http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_personality-disorder_jealousy-and-envy.html
Emotional Blackmail http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_personality-disorder_emotional-blackmail.html
Consequences http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/mlc_personality-disorder_consequences.html

Section II: Self-Focus

http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus.html
49 Articles

The Uncoditionals

Grace http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_unconditionals_grace.html
The Fairness of Grace http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_unconditionals_grace_the-fairness-of-grace.html
The Many Forms and Facets of Grace http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_unconditionals_grace_forms-and-facets-of-grace.html
Agapé http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_unconditionals_agape.html
Forgiveness http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_unconditionals_forgiveness.html
Stages of Victim Development http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_unconditionals_forgiveness_stages-of-victim-development.html
Responsibility & the Betrayer http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_unconditionals_forgiveness_responsibility-and-the-betrayer.html

The Assurances

Introduction http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_introduction.html
Hope http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_hope.html
The Greeks http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_hope_the-greeks.html
Relying on Hope and Enabling Hope http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_hope_relying-on-hope-and-enabling-hope.html
Hope as Incentive and Signs http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_hope_hope-as-incentive-and-signs.html
False Hope http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_hope_false-hope.html
Hopelessness http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_hope_hopelessness.html
Belief & Believe http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_belief-and-believe.html
Self and Your Spouse http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_belief-and-believe_self-and-your-spouse.html
Stories and Human Behavior http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_belief-and-believe_stories-and-human-behavior.html
God/Higher Power http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_belief-and-believe_god-higher-power.html
Faith http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_faith.html
Trust http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_trust.html
Deception Destroys Trust http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_trust_deception-destroys-trust.html
Tidbits of Trust http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_assurances_trust_tidbits-of-trust.html

The Releasers

Introduction http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_releasers_introduction.html
Detach http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_releasers_detach.html
Practical Applications to Detachment http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_releasers_detach_practical-applications-to-detachment.html
Let-Go http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_releasers_let-go.html
Surrender http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_releasers_surrender.html
Acceptance http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_releasers_acceptance.html
Accepting Sin http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_releasers_acceptance_accepting-sin.html
The Nature of Suffering http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_releasers_acceptance_the-nature-of-suffering.html
Wallow or Embrace? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_releasers_acceptance_wallow-or-embrace.html
Are Attached to Your Inner Victim/Suffering? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_releasers_acceptance_are-attached-to-your-inner-victim.html

Gratitude

Introduction http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_gratitude.html
Count Your Blessings http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_gratitude_count-your-blessings.html
Expectation & the Gratitude of Job http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_gratitude_expectation-and-the-gratitude-of-job.html
In Defense and Caution of Praising God http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_gratitude_in-defense-and-caution-of-praising-god.html

Who Are You?

Who Are You? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_who-are-you.html
Why Should I Work on Myself? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_who-are-you_why-should-i-work-on-myself.html
Fearing & Judging the Search http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_who-are-you_fearing-and-judging-the-search.html
Your Present Life Story http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_who-are-you_your-present-life-story.html
Step Out of the Box http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_who-are-you_step-out-of-the-box.html
The Insistence on Maps http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_who-are-you_the-insistence-on-maps.html

Choose Joy

Choose Joy http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_choose-joy.html
Positive Mental Attitude http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_choose-joy_positive-mental-attitude.html
Be Infectious http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_choose-joy_positive-mental-attitude_be-infectious.html
Acting as If--Fake it 'Til You Make it http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_choose-joy_acting-as-if-fake-it-til-you-make-it.html
Happiness When http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_choose-joy_acting-as-if-fake-it-til-you-make-it_happiness-when.html
How Should I Act Around Him? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_choose-joy_acting-as-if-fake-it-til-you-make-it_how-should-i-act-around-him.html
It Doesn't Matter What You Do... http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/self-focus_choose-joy_acting-as-if-fake-it-til-you-make-it_it-doesnt-matter-what-you-do.html

Standing Actions

http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions.html
46 Articles

Balancing Love

Validation http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_validation.html
Respect-Boundaries http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_validation_whats-bad.html
What's Bad? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_validation_passive-resistance-and-tough-love.html
Passive Resistance & Tough Love http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_validation_respect-boundaries.html
The Space Beneath the Tightrope http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_tightrope.html
When to Challenge http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_tightrope_when-to-challenge.html
The Bitch http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_tightrope_bitch.html
It's No Big Deal http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_tightrope_no-big-deal.html
The Doormat http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_balancing-love_tightrope_doormat.html

Progress

Midlife Crisis Takes TIME http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_progress_mlc-time.html
Positive Signs http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_progress_mlc-time_positive-signs.html
Dating http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_progress_mlc-time_dating.html
It Seems Hopeless; Is it Worth it? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_progress_mlc-time_it-seems-hopeless.html
Back-Limbo-Forward http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_progress_back-limbo-forward.html
The Lure of Change http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_progress_back-limbo-forward_lure-of-change.html
Doubt & Confusion http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_progress_back-limbo-forward_doubt-and-confusion.html
Limbo http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_progress_back-limbo-forward_limbo.html

Contact & Communication

Pursuit & Distance http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_pursuit-and-distance.html
Pursuit & Distance: Questions-Comments and Answers http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_pursuit-and-distance_questions.html
Pursuit & Distance: Hoovering http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_pursuit-and-distance_hoovering.html
Reassure or Instill Fear? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_pursuit-and-distance_reassure-or-fear.html
MLCer's Run, Even When the Alienator is Gone http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_pursuit-and-distance_mlcers-run-even-when-the-alienator-is-gone.html
Limited Contact Levels http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_contact-levels.html
Dim & Dark http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_contact-levels_dim-and-dark.html
No Contact http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_contact-levels_no-contact.html
Expectations, Control & Manipulation http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_contact-levels_expectations-control-manipulation.html
Cake-Eating http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_cake-eating.html
The Friendship Balance http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_contact-and-communication_cake-eating_friendship-balance.html

Planting Seeds to Build Trust

The Danger of Questions http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_planting-seeds_danger-of-questions.html
Change Your Language http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_planting-seeds_change-your-language.html
Communicating Your Stand http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_planting-seeds_communicating-your-stand.html
Denying Choice http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_planting-seeds_denying-choice.html

Betrayed: Dealing with Infidelity

Excuses http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_dealing-with-infidelity_excuses.html
Excuses with Validity http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_dealing-with-infidelity_excuses-with-validity.html
I Don't Get It http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_dealing-with-infidelity_i-dont-get-it.html
Contacting the Alienator http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_dealing-with-infidelity_contacting-the-alienator.html
The Affair Down http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_dealing-with-infidelity_affair-down.html
An Affair Down Alienator is an Advantage http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_dealing-with-infidelity_affair-down-advantage.html
What Makes the Alienator an Affair Down? http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_dealing-with-infidelity_what-makes-the-alienator-an-affair-down.html
The Woman Scorned http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_dealing-with-infidelity_woman-scorned.html
The Woman Scorned Part II http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_dealing-with-infidelity_woman-scorned2.html

Coming & Going

Touch-n-Goes & Reconnection http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_coming-and-going_touch-and-goes-and-reconnection.html
Reconnection http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_coming-and-going_touch-and-goes-and-reconnection_reconnection.html
Being Number One http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_coming-and-going_being-number-one.html
The Lost Love http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_coming-and-going_lost-love.html
Wanting More http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/standing-actions_coming-and-going_wanting-more.html

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