Denial and Acceptance are opposites. Denial is about not Accepting. Externally a person in Denial and one in Acceptance may appear the same. You both believe he will come home. You both have Faith in a Higher Power. You both may put up with a lot—or it may seem so to outsiders. How do you know whether you are in Denial or Acceptance?
Denies the process of the crisis
I can make it better
I can change him
He will go through this quickly
|Accepts the process of the crisis
A few years in duration
|Insistence from a weak standpoint
God wouldn't do this to me
God won't let me down...
|God is doing this; maybe there is a reason.
Or Free-Will etc.
|Weak or Vacant sounding
Lacking a tone of authority and confidence
|Confident and Authoritative Manner
|Pretending nothing has changed
If I pretend nothing is wrong, it will go away.
Not allowing him to pretend nothing is wrong I’m bothered that you…
|Dismiss facts & his feelings
This makes him feel worthless
|Faith without being dismissive
Validate & Affirm
|Standing out of Fear & Desperation
Claims Faith, but Fear is indicative of a lack of Faith
|Standing out of Love and Personal Strength
|Low Self-Worth, Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem
Finds Self-Love externally
|High Self-Worth, Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem
|Gave Up Personal Power
Allows external control of emotions
When he does that he makes me feel Mad, Sad, Happy…
|Accepts and Hold onto Personal Power
Internal Emotional Control
When he does that I feel Mad, Sad, Happy…
This is being done to me
|I am in control of me
Embraces personal journey
|Always acting perky or happy
||Comfortable revealing all emotions|
You know you’ve gotta stop crying, panicking or asking your spouse ANYTHING. And you know you should let-go and give space so that you can learn to respond and communicate with your spouse from a place of calm rather than emotional hurt.
Understanding Midlife Crisis
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