Coaching

Are you interested in coaching?

I provide coaching public and private through my community forum. The Coaching Archives (public sessions) are accessible to paying subscribers as well as to new members for a free 1-week trial. By making individual coaching available to others, I hope to keep the cost minimal and to help others who are not able to afford coaching. This means you can receive some of the benefits of coaching by subscribing and reading the Coaching Archives or by requesting coaching for yourself. To receive personal coaching you must be a registered member of the forum, but it is not necessary to be a subscriber.

Public Coaching Terms
All public coaching threads are owned by The Hero's Spouse. The archives are available in thread form to subscribers, trial members and the staff. They are also being made available in discrete increments in e-book format (pdf or through an e-book reader) and may become available in print-on-demand formats as well. A discrete increment means that I will include a few months in a single e-book, depending on size; a single year may have a few issues of the e-book. These will not be available until several months (or more) after the original coaching dates. The e-book issues are sold for $9.99 and will be available for purchase either through the store on this site or Amazon.com (or other retailer)--depending on the availability of appropriate e-readers with suitable formatting and any in-place agreements with Amazon.com( or other retailers).

By choosing to receive public coaching you are agreeing to these terms.

Private Coaching
I spend 8-10 hours on each initial written Coaching Post and since Private Coaching will not have the Coaching Archives to offset the cost, there is no subscriber discount for Private Coaching.

Written: This works the same and looks the same as the Public Coaching with the exception that I will not post it in the Coaching Archives, but will instead send it to you as a Private Message and it will not be included in the e-book issues mentioned above.

Skype: This is new and exciting! With Skype we can video and both see each other or if you don’t have a video camera for your computer, you can see me and I can hear you—and that works just as well! I've just started offering this and so it is in the testing phase. The goal is to eventually offer 60 minute sessions, but for the testing phase I will allow up to 90 minutes as I practice setting time boundaries and getting all that is needed into the time.
In addition I will record audio sessions and send you a copy. But I will not guarantee the recording in case there is an equipment malfunction. So the intention is that you will be able to have a copy of our session to review at your leisure, but this is an extra rather than a guarantee and refunds will not be given if the recording is unavailable.

Combo Skype and Written: The basic package is a single 60 to 90 minute Skype as well as a written post. Discuss with me whether you want to start with the written or audio session, some prefer one way and others another. The session that follows may be about clarifications and anwering your questions, since you may have many. I have priced this package as though it is 2 private sessions with a 20% discount. If you would like more--such as 2 Skypes--discuss this with me and we can work together to determine pricing depending on what you want.

Coaching Fees
• Subscribers: $39.95
• Non-Subscribers: $64.95
• Private Skype OR Written: $100.00
• Private Skype and Written Combo: $160.00

Note that if you subscribe for 6 months at $39.95, you then qualify for the discounted public coaching rate of $39.95. This means you can have access to the Coaching Archives and the private forum for 6 months for $79.90 rather then coaching for the nonsubscriber fee of $64.95. That's a lot more access for an additional $14.95.

Written Coaching: What Will You Get?
Typically a Coaching Session is a single Coaching Response from me with 1 short follow-up for any questions you may have. Though I'm flexible, I do request that any follow-up be within a month of receiving the initial response, unless you have pre-arranged something with me. In some cases my initial response is shorter because you may be new and have few posts on the forum or you are choosing to give me information through email or the private message system instead of posting publicly. In that case the follow-ups will likely be longer because my initial post may be made up of a lot of questions in order to gather information, I may also send a pre-response to you with several questions I need information about before I can write a response to you.

What Will My Receipt/Statement Say?
Some of you may be concerned that your MLCer may see a suspicious statement on your credit or bank statement. The company name does not refer to midlife crisis or this website. I use a neutral name which I will not post here where snooping spouses can find it. But please be assured that I am doing my best to protect your transactions from MLCer suspicion.

Disclaimer!!
I am not a therapist; I have no training in counseling. I offer no guarantees with my coaching-advice.

Though there are patterns of similarity, each person is different. I would like to guarantee that whether your spouse returns or not, you will be successful. But I cannot say what you will or will not choose, but I will promise that you can be successful; the choice is your own. I offer generalities, referencing what worked for me or others whom I have assisted. Standing is not an easy path. The choice to Stand may be simple, but the actions are challenging. Midlife Crisis is your spouse's journey; embrace your own journey and you will reap the rewards.

What I am is a wife who has experienced my husband's midlife crisis with infidelity and survived with my marriage intact. My training is as a writer which is why I have been able to write the content on this site. I spend my time researching, writing, scanning forums and coaching. My interests as a writer prior to MLC were in Traditional Tales (Folk, Fairy, Fable...) and Mythological Studies; such interests included an interest in Jungian Psychology. These interests provided a foundational starting point for my MLC studies.

How to Request Coaching
Please do not send me a Private Message to request Coaching; complete the form below.

What I need from you
• The title of your present story thread at the community forum
• A link to your present story thread
• Link your thread by copying from the address bar at the top of your screen when in your thread and paste it into the link box provided in the form. You may need to have two windows open to do this.
• A bunch of information! The middle questions on the form are basic info-gathering. I know that some of you have given this information already--since you have received coaching before. Please complete it again. I may not have kept the specific data since I eventually delete it from my public responses and some things may have changed.
• If the thread is long or your situation history is not in the story thread, please provide a brief (~200 words or less) situation history. I know that is not a ot of words, but if you don't have a thread, you can send me more once I have responded to your request.
• If you have a specific question or situation you want me to review, let me know. You may need to refer me to a certain post; you can do this by giving the post number in your thread.

I will review all submitted requests. If you are requesting Public Coaching, I will send a form Personal Message reiterating the terms so that you are clear and I will explain additional elements of the process. You will then have the opportunity to back out if you are uncomfortable with the terms--or you can change your request to Private Coaching.

For those who accept the terms and those requesting Private Coaching I will then send an email--to the address listed in the request form--requesting a payment through PayPal. The email is set-up with PayPal and will contain all necessary instructions. Thus far my schedule has permitted me the ability to answer all coaching requests. For Skype sessions: Once I have received your Payment we will schedule a time that works for both of us. I may also request additional information from you so that I come to the session prepared and we will thus not have to spend too much time going over events.

When I complete your written coaching I will send it to you as a Personal Message--for both Public and Private Coaching. For Public Coaching, you may then notify me of the comment-responses (your or other poster comments and my answers) that you feel you would like removed for the version that I will post in the Coaching Archives. That Coaching Archives version will eventually be an issue of the e-book. The only editing is for grammar and some acronyms along with name-aliases. It is imperative that you let me know what to remove within a timely manner--though don't worry, I will give you time to process my post!

You may especially want to consider what sort of dates to hide or change and whether any information regarding your children or custody issues should also be removed.

Presently my turn-around is 3-7 days. In order to keep up with new requests and so that you are not wondering if I will select you and request money from you for many weeks out, I will send you a payment request within 3 days of receiving your request. I will not begin writing my coaching post until I have received payment.