Is your spouse having a Midlife Crisis (MLC)? Is he or she depressed, cheating, talking about divorce, acting moody or angry? Do you want to learn how to deal with someone experiencing MLC?

This website is for the spouses of those experiencing a crisis of identity wherein the person often sees no alternative but to abandon his marriage. Though the identity crisis I focus on is the Midlife Crisis, crises of other life transitions may also apply.

Standing for Your Sweetheart is published every other Saturday and sent directly to your email in-box. I follow the site format, writing an article that corresponds to each article section on The Hero's Spouse website.

1. Midlife Crisis
2. Paving the Way & Self Focus
   (Personal Relationship)
3. Standing Strategies
   (Marital Relationship)

Are you losing your hope because you don’t understand what's happening?
Do you really understand midlife crisis?
Do you understand why your spouse wants out of your marriage?
Do you understand what is so enticing about the affair?
Do you understand why someone would steal someone else's spouse?
Do you know what to believe?
Do you understand what is happening to you?
Do you even know what you want anymore?

Would it help if you did understand these things? Would it help you to feel better, stronger, and to function? Would it perhaps even help your marriage? Wouldn't your efforts be different if you understood these things?

Why listen to me? What do I know?
Because I have been where you are and I learned how to get through it with my marriage intact.

I don't offer superficial overviews.

• I've researched midlife crisis in depth, studying Jungian views of midlife and incorporating his ideas of psychological type to understand the differences in individual MLCers.
• I've studied Erik Erikson's stages of human development to gain an understanding of the roots of crisis and how they may manifest in adulthood.
• I've studied depression and the differences between overt and covert depression to explain different behaviours that are often not recognized as depressive.
• I researched the psychology of affairs, looking into the motivations for choosing a partner who is already married. Who does this and why?
• I've studied hypnotherapy to gain an understanding of language and communication in addition to learning to control my cycling emotions amidst crisis.

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Explore the site, read the articles and determine for yourself whether the content is worth reading additional articles. Standing for Your Sweetheart is FREE, but it's not something I throw together at the last minute—I plan months ahead. Many e-zine newsletters are fronts for updating site content, or pithy news and information updates sent randomly. The articles in Standing for Your Sweetheart are a lot like the other articles on this site, though they are shorter--usually 400-1200 words.

I may occasionally include an update section when I add a new article to the main site or when I add new features and service—such as an online forum.

What's the catch?
Why am I offering so much free information? Because I've been where you are now. How are you going to make your house payments when your household income is cut in half or more? I couldn't afford expensive coaching or counseling services and I know that most of you can't either—and many who can now will have fewer resources as the midlife crisis and any legal processes progress. I want to give forward.

Do I have an agenda?
Yes, I do. I hate divorce. I know that is unpopular in this divorce-happy culture, but it's how I feel. I want to help restore marriages. I want you to know that there is hope. This is also a business and traffic is a requirement for its success.

The end goal of my personal mission is to prevent divorce and facilitate rebuilding a greater marriage. A marriage is not doomed when one partner wants out. Though there are no guarantees, it is possible to prevent a divorce. But to do so, it is necessary to accept the death of the former relationship in order to allow a new marriage to arise from the ashes. Marriages can survive Midlife Crisis. There is no guarantee, but Faith and Hope make it possible.

I've researched the Internet and am disgusted by websites that prey on your vulnerability. These usually have few if any outgoing links, they start with a large font headline to grab your attention and follow that with a dynamically dated letter addressing you as Dear Friend or some other familiarity. They use fear tactics to get you to purchase their services or e-book—or e-book with a free-consultation at a price well beyond the retail price for a book published by a reputable publishing house with editorial checks and balances. Don't get me wrong, some of the books and services may be worth the price, but I don't trust businesses that use those tactics.

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