How do you deal with someone who is having a midlife crisis? Even those who live away from home are often a constant presence.
How do you handle or respond to the...
Does knowing about the stages and psychology of Midlife Crisis help or has it merely sent you into Analysis Paralysis? Does it make a difference that you now understand that he never fully resolved his childhood traumas? How does that help you now? Learning about Midlife Crisis may or may not help you--it is different for each person.
How does meditation help when he keeps interrupting or when your new-found Spirituality scares him? What good is your Positive Mental Attitude when he doesn't seem to care or when he thinks it is a manipulation? Focusing on your Self will certainly help you if you allow it to do so. Your Personal-Growth will build a foundation for dealing with your MLCer. The Midlife Crisis articles are intellectual theory and the Self-Focus articles are about your journey; this section is about Applied Action--directly dealing with your MLCer.
I don't have the answers and if I give an answer, it may be WRONG! It may work for some and backfire for others. Sometimes an Action may seem to backfire, but the underground actions stimulate processing or progress--which may not be seen for months or years. The reverse is true for something which may seem positive. I am like you; the wife of an MLCer stumbling along through trial and error.
The goal here is not to stop or prevent a midlife crisis. Why? Because that cannot be done and if it seems to stop, beware, it is likely a premature. Midlife crisis is not something to get over, rather it is a journey to go through, the only way out is through to the end. The Standing Strategies build a foundation for a later return; they are not meant to turn him around right now.
You know you’ve gotta stop crying, panicking or asking your spouse ANYTHING. And you know you should let-go and give space so that you can learn to respond and communicate with your spouse from a place of calm rather than emotional hurt.
Understanding Midlife Crisis
The foundational course to give you answers and clarity into "What the he!! Is going on with my spouse!"