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Part 2: Mirror-Work & Paving the Way

By Kenda-Ruth Stumpf

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Becoming an Attractive Force

Though I list MLC first in the article sections, it is because it is most often where the questions begin, but the most important section is the second, Mirror-Work. I have experienced Sweetheart's midlife crisis and I understand that until there are some answers, or perhaps speculations to your questions, it will be difficult for you to focus on your Self. In the first section, I gave the definition or type of MLC I use and provide you with stages, present motivations and possible MLC root causes. Hopefully with that as a base for understanding, you will be able to focus on your Self, taking your journey to healing.

Mirror-Work is important whether you are Standing or not. These articles integrate the concept of Paving the Way which are the components in paving a safe path home. Specific articles on personal growth and development follow these. Paving the Way is a part of focusing on your Self. The journey is yours, I can outline what I have learned, but I cannot do the work for you. Reading about Grace, Agapé and Forgiveness may provide an understanding of theory, but for growth, these are all things you must experience.

Standing may be the hardest thing you ever do. It is emotionally difficult because you may feel like a failure as the life you built lies crumbled at your feet. But it is also painful to watch as your soul mate insists on continuing on a path toward Self-destruction. It is a feeling of helplessness; stepping aside to allow him to find and save his Self takes courage.

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