MLC Survey

This survey is meant to collect general statistical data about MLCers. The data can be used to answer a variety of questions such as differences in age ranges or static types and how they may affect MLC specific (energy or contact) types.
It is to be completed by Left Behind Spouses whose Bomb Drop was at least 1 year ago. Why? Because some of the types are difficult to determine in the beginning. Please do not take this survey if your Bomb Drop was less than a year ago.

I request specific dates because the sytem can use them for more precise and automatic calculations. If you cannot recall precise dates, pick the closest you can or give the month and year or even the season and year.

I have provided links to articles where some of the types are defined if you need to review them in order to answer the questions.

MLC Survey
Please note that all fields followed by an asterisk must be filled in.

Gender of MLCer*

Date of Bomb Drop*

(Month-Day-Year or Month-Year)*

Date of (First Continuous) Separate Residences*

(Month-Day-Year or Month-Year)*

Date of Marriage (moved in together for cohabiters) *

(Month-Day-Year or Month-Year)*

MLCer's Date of Birth*

LBS's Date of Birth*


Living Arrangements - During the first year after Bomb Drop*

(If they moved home a few times, I am only interested in the arrangements while not at home. Choose the most common if more than one applies.)*
Cohabit with alienator
Moved in with family
Has/Had their own place
Stayed/Staying with friends
At Home

Status at Bomb Drop*

Divorce Filed
check all that apply.*
My MLCer filed for divorce
I filed for divorce
We filed for divorce together
My MLCer filed for separation
I filed for separation
We filed for separation together
Nothing filed

Date of Divorce Filing*

(NA or Month-Day-Year or Month-Year)*

Date of Separation Filing*

(NA or Month-Day-Year or Month-Year)*

Date of Divorce*

(NA or Month-Day-Year or Month-Year)*

Children Together?*

Step Children*
MLCer has other children
Left Behind Spouse has other children
Both have other children
No step children

Ages of Children at Bomb Drop*

Please provide age, gender, living arrangements, whose (step, both)*

Previous Marriages?*
1st marriage for both
Yes - Left behind Spouse/Partner was widowed
Yes - MLCer was widowed
Yes - Both widowed
Yes - Left behind Spouse/Partner was divorced
Yes - MLCer was divorced
Yes - Both divorced
Never Married

Escape & Avoid (Energy) Type*

High-Energy Replay
Low-Energy Wallower
High-Energy: Replayer
Low-Energy: Wallower
I don't know, sort of in-between
My MLCer is a distant Contact Type and I can't really tell
Clinging Boomerang
Steady Live-In

Steady Emotionally-Bonded Physical Affair
Dated in search of an emotionally-bonded (physical) affair.
These situations may have involved multiple alienators.
flings--sexual liaisons that are not emotionally-bonded.
(Prostitutes, one-night stands, friends with benefits, affairs that simply fail to last...)
Emotional Affair
Fantasy Alienator
I suspect an affair, but don't know.
No Affair (that I know of)
I don't Know if there is/was an affair

Stress-Coping Style*

Stress Coping Styles

MBTI Attitude*

(Information on MBTI (Jungian/Myers Brigg Typology) is below the form.)*

Jungian/Myers Brigg Type*

(No guessing only answer if you are somewhat certain. The MBTI is not something you can take for someone or simply read the attributes and make an identification.)*

Left Behind Spouse/Partner Status*
Never a Stander
No Longer Standing
Reconciled - MLC is history!

Additional Comments or Special Circumstances
(i.e. the default assumption is for opposite sex couples, let me know if you are/were a same-sex couple.)

Please enter the word that you see below.


Jungian/Myers Brigg Typology


Methods for feeling and directing energy.

Introversion [I]: Thought-oriented, directing energy inward toward concepts and ideas; energized through reflection. Think before acting. Prefers qualitative interactions.

Extraversion [E]: Action-oriented, directing energy outward toward people and objects; energized through action. Act first. Prefers quantitative interactions.


Methods for perceiving and interpreting reality and methods for responding to reality.


Methods for gathering and interpreting data. Experience resulting from internal and external stimuli rather than reason; how a person interprets data and experiences.

Sensing [S]: Obtains data through the five senses. Objective, an outward orientation to physical reality relating to physical stimuli and tangible reality—perception through the sense-organs. Observant, trusting factual data gathered through the five senses. The data is the meaning.

Intuition [N]: Obtains data through internal thought and reflection. Subjective, an inward orientation to psychic reality—perception in the absence of physical cause. Introspective, reflecting and focusing on the internal world, trusting theoretical and abstract data in relational associations with other data, interested in possibilities. Finds meaning in patterns and theory.


Methods for responding to data. Experience resulting from mental activity, reason and judgment; how a person evaluates and processes data and experiences for use in decision-making.

Thinking [T]: Detached evaluation based on rules and organization of ideas—deductive reasoning, concerned with truth or fallacy.

Feeling [F]: Associative evaluation, concerned with balance and harmony, not to be confused with emotions. Value determination of like or dislike based on good or bad feelings.


Refers to the primary preference of either the perception or judging functions when in an extraverted attitude.

Judging [J]: Prefers the dominant perceiving function (Sensing or Intuition) when in an extraverted attitude.

Perceiving [P]: Prefers the dominant judging function (Thinking or Feeling) when in an extraverted attitude.

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